Orgies aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. Whether you’re watching the decadent scene from Eyes Wide Shut or just not a fan of group sex, it’s OK to let your boundaries be known.
The best BDSM orgy tips can be found here. It’s important to get clear verbal consent from all parties and to remember that rejection happens, but people take it surprisingly well!
1. Know Your Boundaries
If you and your partner are both new to orgy-style sex, it’s important that you understand your personal boundaries. This will help you determine what to expect and ensure that your needs are met throughout the event.
This includes knowing the orgy’s organizer, rules and etiquette for physical safety (such as barrier methods for manual, oral and penetrative sex), and any fetishes or themes that may be encouraged.
You also need to think about your emotional boundaries. Whether you’re playing alone or with multiple partners, always get clear verbal consent before starting any sex act. This is especially important if drugs or alcohol are involved. This will make the experience more enjoyable and safe for everyone.
2. Be Prepared
The thrill of going to an orgie can be a bit overwhelming. It’s a good idea to be prepared by making sure you bring lube and condoms. Also, remember that you may need to use multiple types of toys.
It’s not uncommon for participants to wear lingerie or latex or PVC suits at these parties. Some even use aliases to avoid being recognized by their real names.
It is also a good idea to have sexy music and tasteful porn playing in the background to set the mood. And, always make sure to get clear verbal consent from each partner before touching them. It’s the only way to keep things consensual and safe.
3. Talk to Your Partner
When it comes to sexual safety, it’s important for you and your partner to be on the same page. This means discussing any hard or soft limits beforehand. For example, if you’re okay with oral but not penetration, let your partner know that before the party starts.
During this conversation, it’s also helpful to discuss your “must-haves” for the night. You can do this by demonstrating what you like and asking your partner to show you theirs. This can be a fun and engaging way to communicate your boundaries. In addition, it can help prevent any negative emotions from occurring (like jealousy) at the event.
5. Don’t Be Afraid to Say No
One of the most effective ways to be a good partner is to learn to say no. This helps you protect your mental and physical energy, prioritize your needs and interests, get enough sleep and have a life filled with things you enjoy.
Orgy etiquette is similar to dating etiquette and boils down to clear communication and respect. It’s OK to say no, even if someone has a raging hard-on. Remember to be direct, and if they want to play later, you can always invite them to do so. Just make sure you have consent first. This is especially important if there is drinking or drugs involved. It is also a good idea to have a backup plan.
6. Be Respectful
It’s natural to feel a little shy and awkward at your first orgy. Remember that getting naked in front of strangers can be scary, but following the host’s ground rules will help make it a positive experience.
The number one rule at a sex party is to receive clear verbal consent from each of your partners before each sex act. This includes oral, manual, and intercourse.
Orgies often include fetishes like a rack, sex swing or whip. If you are not into these things, politely decline if the person invites you to play. It’s common for horny people to use aliases at these parties. It prevents them from being recognized outside the club.
7. Don’t Be Afraid to Say No to Fetishes
Whether you are a fetishist or just curious, an orgy can be a great place to explore your sexual kinks. They also provide a safe space for the shy to expand their boundaries and meet people who are willing to play with them.
However, even for those who have been to sex parties before, it is important to remember that orgies are intense and not for everyone. So before you decide to join one, be sure that you and your partner are on the same page about your kinks and what will and won’t work for you. This includes positions, adult sex toys and other details. This will make your experience safer and more enjoyable for everyone involved.
8. Don’t Be Afraid to Leave
Many orgies are not as structured as you might think. They may not be strictly a group sex party, and participants might not know each other beforehand.
If you’re a first-time orgy goer, don’t be afraid to leave when you don’t feel comfortable. It’s better to get out of a situation that’s uncomfortable or unsafe than risking an STI or STD.
If you want to learn more about orgies, swingers, and kinks, check out community boards on sites like SDC or Kasidie. These communities are full of success stories and epic failures that can help you decide if an orgie is for you. For the best experience, use protection and stay hydrated.